How many 7 years do we have? Perhaps 10? The 1st 7-year we spend almost oblivious of what life is about. The 2nd 7-year we figure out what education means. The 3rd 7-year we study hard to get to the University we want and we fall in and out of a series of love relationships only to realize that we have drank too much and time has passed too fast. And finally for me, the 4th 7-year, I have been with that someone whom I have spent my life with till … my hair turns a bit too grey and my memory turns a bit too blurry.
But that is the beauty of it all. People fight a little from time to time and make peace with one another; people quarrel from time to time only to realize that we simply don’t mean the things we say; and people make mistakes from time to time only to realize that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can give to another person. And through this journey I learn, she learn, and we learn. We learn that love is patience because the most precious asset we have is time; we learn that love is sacrifice because it is when we put another person above oneself do we realize that there could be something worth dying for; and we learn that love is unconditional because when one surrenders it all, one can make space for what love has to offer.
It is when nuisance turns into something of a novelty; it is when absurd behavior turns into something of a charm; and it is when crazy idea turns into a memorable event that make this segment of a 7-year worth living. And it is the smile that one sees, the warmth of the body one feels, and the scent that one smells that transforms an ordinary moment in life into something worth writing, worth reminiscing, and worth living. But I know the darkness is there because we have closed our eyes at times, the emptiness is there because we forgot what we rightfully have, and the sadness is there because our hearts fond of the notion of having someone with us every single moment and living breath of our lives.
And in this 5th 7-year I can tell myself in front of the mirror that it is life well spent. Life is a finite business I know. And I may have another 5 more to go. Today is our 7th anniversary and for better and for worse, I pray that I will live one extra day more than the one I love – no more, no less.
18 replies on “Our 7th Anniversary For Better And For Worse”
wow…. its not easy to sustain a long term relationship. Congratulations to you hopeless romantic Uncle wilfrid. :p
Any plans for babies soon?
Lani – Aiyoh … Uncle Wilfrid sounds so … old … ha ha ha. Erm, if baby comes, baby comes. All in good time 🙂
Bearing a risk of sounding too cheesy to your readers, I’d like to put it on record that you are the best husband one could ever ask for… You may not be clad in shining armor riding a white horse, but you do slay my everyday dragons (and mice, for that matter). The little things and the big things you’ve done make me realise that I can’t live without you…
I pray for much more 7 years with you, for better or for worse. Much love.
It made me recall that in one of the Writings of Nichiren (1222-1282), a 13th century buddhist sage, that husband is like an arrow and wife is the bow, and both husband and wife are like a pair of wings for a bird, without one, the arrow or bow itself is useless, or the bird can’t fly. Imagine ancient history already recorded the sacred bond of husband and wife! How fortunate it is to be so in this lifetime!
Ahh… This is so sweet!! I so like what Cynthia wrote. It is just so heart warming. Anyway, wish you guys many more 7 years to come! 😀
I am so touching… congratulations to both~! My best wishes to you both… and my prayer is always with you two… 🙂
(luckily, I also have my good man with me whom I can look forward to… otherwise, would be soooo jealous! haha…) 😛
Ghim Seng – Oh, I do like your analogy about arrow and bow. How true it is! I am more thinking in the line of clothes and hangers …
JT – Thank you! From what I gather, you and your hubby are doing great too! Let me know how you two feel when you hit the first 7th 🙂
Lora – Thanks … ha ha ha … your comment in brackets cracked me up big time … ha ha ha …
Cynthia – D’oh … you do read my site! 🙂
too sweet 😀 i think i’m sugar high already 😀
aiyah.. my longest relationship only lasted for 1.5 years.. never mind.. still long way to go :p
Sylv – Ayoh … you are still young. You will find the right one 🙂
Nice 7-year write up! How about keeping your blog for 7 years? “P
Tigerfish – Oh, actually, I have started “blogging” since 1996 in a much manual way (the article section on the menu bar are the selected few I kept over the years). I have this distribution email list that I sent “stories” or my life experience to my friends regularly. In fact, I know at least one of them still reads my “blog” till now 🙂
Clothes and hangers, so true! Love has to be assimilated into every moment of our lives, and basically I think, to respect the fundamental human dignity of each party.
Ghim Seng – I really had no idea where clothes and hangers come from. Of course I did have some ideas on why I am more like the hangers instead the clothes … but that is another story …
Congrats on your 7th Anniversary. No itch? hehehe…..
ECL – Thanks ECL … Itch is everywhere of course … girls these days should wear more clothes … ha ha ha.