“You are much smaller than how I imagine you to be,” said one colleague of mine from India whom I have not met before in real life. We were having lunch at our office canteen. It was a bright and sunny day with the glory of the afternoon sun flooded into our dinning hall through the long row of floor to ceiling glass windows. Caught off guard by his comment, I was unable to response. You see, from where I work, we have tons of cross border voice conference calls. Most of the time we recognize people by voice. Most of the time, we visualize how the person may look purely by our imagination.
I have fallen in love with Adele’s voice. Her song “Rolling In The Deep” lifts up my spirit whenever I hear it played on the radio. When I watched her music video on YouTube, she was not how I imagined her to be. Nevertheless, I adore her music and I love her voice. I hope I have not disappointed that colleague of mine too much, by not being as physically big as how I may have subconsciously portrayed myself to be through the phone.
The other day, after yet another conference call, an Indian colleague from the same office building commented that I have a commanding voice. Perhaps I do sound different when I am on the phone, versus when you catch me on the lift. You see, I don’t think conference call should be long and painful. Because too many people have spent too much time listening to the topics that are of little interest to them. Updates and clarifications should be concise, actionable, and to the point. Get your 10 seconds of fame and pass the mic to the next one quick.
Reward is a peculiar thing. It motivates you to move forward. It nullifies the pain of your daily grinds. Your hope and anticipation builds up as you are closing in. The moment you get your hands onto your reward, the happiness seems to last for only a split second. And then you ask, what’s next? It is as though the reward itself seldom matters. What matters is the journey of getting there.
I see this in my online game. I see this in my real life. Suffice to say, the moment I do not see any reward in sight, I would feel restless and lost. I have a theory. If you are bored at work, that would likely to make you a duller person outside your office. If you are too busy at work, that would make you a workaholic that frankly speaking, I do not know who would love you except your bosses. Or rather, who you would love besides your work. Striking a balance is never easy. Consistently attaining that balance seems almost impossible. Nonetheless, that is the ideal.
Like it or not, our society pigeonholes us into buckets of similar attributes. We may end up having a similar set of milestones in life, doing similar things in life, and going through similar set of daily grind. This is rather unfortunately, in my opinion. We could be so much more unique. The point is, there are many things in life that we should be doing them because we want to, rather than because everyone is doing them. The journey is the same. But the experience is different.
I enjoy meeting this buddy of mine over at the east for lunch during working days, at the airport. One fine day after our food, we were browsing magazines at a newsstand. One particular magazine, or rather booklet, caught his attention and he passed it to me. It was a guide on how to exercise with the dumbbells. How appropriate. I have always want to get a proper guide on how to do weightlifting. I flipped through the pages seriously considering to spend ten bucks purchasing it. Then I stopped at one particular routine. In the picture, a man was lying with his back on the floor and he was using his feet to do the heavy lifting. The dumbbell was locked in between the arches of his feet as he pushed it up into midair and let it down. We gasped. What if the dumbbell or pieces of it, for whatever reason, fell off?
Ouch.
6 replies on “Snippet Of My Life Episode 32 – Don’t Let That Dumbbell Falls Onto Your Balls!”
Interesting snippets. I suppose it is the natural law that ppl want to pigeonhole to make sense of the world. Otherwise it would be pure anarchy, with ppl doing their own things and all they dreamt about is to be a star in a talent show auditions! and eventually not enough scientists and engineers to keep a country going (you know which country I’m referring to!)
Money is another factor why ppl take the road most travelled. Since I heard u sing and a video clip of u strumming the guitar. The expectation has been set realistically, unlike your Indian colleague! LOL
JoV – Ha ha ha … yes, yes, that video. I remember. It was quite a while ago.
I suppose what I meant by pigeonholing people is that if you do not fit a certain bucket, this society does not have a place for you. At times, you do not have to have this and that like many of the rest in order to excel. Just my thought 🙂
It is true. Our society doesn’t accept diversity very well, narrow-minded and can be very stereotypical. The one issue I always face is when I have a different opinion from a group of people. I used to be looked upon as a rebel or an antagonist. I learnt very slow about this but in recent years I have learnt to be quiet about it. No one actually wants my opinion, unless specifically ask for it. So better shut up. 🙂
I agree with you JoV on your last statement.
How many times have we been in a situation where we feel fed up or bored to death by people who talk nonstop about their opinions and views.
I have learnt not to be that kind of person. If people want my opinion, they can and will ask. If I feel strongly about something, I will make my statement but have learnt when to stop talking.
hi Cynthia,
I just saw this response. Glad you think the same.
It’s sad not being able to just say what you think but it all depends who is the audience. I hope you have friends who can hear you talk on and on and who will want to listen more of what you have to say! 😀
JoV & Cynthia – I think it take maturity for an individual to listen to a diversity of opinion. And at time, the discussion can get a bit heated. Like my dislike for Apple products that always attract a lot of my friends’ fierce counter-strike … hahaha.
On a more serious note, opinions sought for are in general more valued compares to opinions volunteered. And I often volunteer opinions to those I care.