Everything in life can be measured, that is what I believe – either directly, via proxy measurement, or indirectly. One friend of mine asked: how do we measure love?
We don’t have something like a love-meter, nor any consistent correlation that can scientifically measure love. How love is measured (after months and years of pondering), I think, is simply how much time you spend thinking of that someone or something positively during the day. Time is finite and it is a good unit of measure because everybody has the same number of hours a day. If you are thinking of that LV bag the entire day, yes, you are in love with that LV bag. If you are craving for sushi the entire day, yes, you would love to have sushi for dinner. If you think of work even after office hours, in as much as you hate to admit, you love your work more than your own family, or your cat, or your dog.
It is kind of simplistically elegant. If you are unsure whether you love A or B more, ask yourself one question: do you think of A or B more often? No more dilemma, no more so called follow your heart. If you love someone, you think of that someone often.
Not too surprisingly, if you hate that something or someone, you also think of that person or that thing often. Love and hate belongs to the same category – intense feeling towards something or someone (the opposite of love is indifference).
So, what does falling out of love mean? Perhaps that is when you think lesser of that someone each passing day. Perhaps having the pictures of your family at your workplace does make sense. You see, you think, therefore you love. Perhaps having a picture of your dog as your wallpaper does reinforce how much you love your little companion.
So, do you love me more than I love you? Tell me how often you think of me and I may tell you what you want to know.
Love can be measured, I believe.
6 replies on “This Is How Love Is Measured”
I can feel the love from the people who love me but I cannot measure how deep. My parents and in-laws for example. They are selfless when it comes to their children, grandchildren and siblings. They willing to sacrifice themselves and give everything they own. I try hard to love them as I know how but I can never equal their love. Sadly, I’m a little selfish. 😛
I have intense hatred for some people and they are going to feel that soon……
ECL – I guess we all love one another at a different level at each moment. It is more or less like the stock market index that goes up and down.
I have to say, I for one wish to stay away from your wrath … ha ha ha.
Wow, this entry really struck a cord with me. You really made it seem so simple.
Lani – Hi there, perhaps, life is … that simple?!
Perhaps I am “old school”, or maybe I have been influenced too much by all the romance movies I watched. I believe Love is something that we should not try to measure, nor use logic in formulating an answer to. Some things are best left unspoken, some mysteries left unsolved. It adds to the intrigue that Life offers. Perhaps the best way is to follow the methods of children, they feel love with the pumping of their hearts – pure and innocent.
Darkspore – I agree with you of course. However, for the current state of affair of anything in interest (be it as love, body temperature, happiness, wealth), there are many ways to assess the situation and many ways to measure. I definitely am not proposing that simply thinking of that someone is the ONLY way to measure something. Just one of the many ways. Perhaps when you keep thinking of that someone very often (missing feeling), you are falling deep into love. Perhaps when you stop thinking of that someone, you are falling out of love. Possibly some trending to be observed by one simple measurement.